Why My Relationship is NOT Goals

   As cliche as it sounds, everyone wants to find that "special someone".  While we're patiently or not so patiently waiting for that person to appear in our lives, we see other relationships that we want.  We see our friend's boyfriend buy her flowers and makeup, and they always have the cutest Instagram pictures of perfectly decorated Bibles and a cup of coffee showing that they had a devotional together.  We so desperately want a relationship like that and we appoint that image as our one true relationship goal.  Along with receiving nice things, many of us also want a "godly relationship".  While this is a great and important thing to desire, many of us don't understand what an actual godly relationship looks like.  It is a God-like relationship.  Since we are not God, we cannot live out a true godly relationship.  But we are to strive for one with our heavenly Father.
     People assume that a godly relationship is just one between two people who go to church and read their Bible together.  If you do that with your boyfriend or girlfriend, then you have what everyone wants, and you're doing just fine.  A true godly relationship isn't two righteous individuals without any problems.  It's simply two unrighteous, broken sinners who aren't afraid to accept their desperate need of a Savior and His grace.  People don't talk about that enough.  People don't realize or want that enough.  All we see are the cute pictures and the public displays of affection and think to ourselves, "I really want that."  Or we see the cuddly couples at church and wish we could find someone like that.  But deep down, what our heart really needs isn't that.  Our hearts need Jesus.  Our "relationship goals" should be of one with Jesus Christ.  Once we realize that, and start pursuing a strong relationship with Jesus, the relationships that God has planned for us will start falling into place.
     Taylor and I's relationship doesn't always have the attributes of a godly one, and therefore shouldn't be your "relationship goals".  No one can truly have a godly relationship, because we are not God, and we are not perfect.  We're just people.  We have our own sins we have to work through and ones that we have to work with together.  Taylor and I desperately need God, not a so-called godly relationship with each other.  When we have a close bond with Christ, our bond with one another becomes stronger, therefore strengthening our ability to live out the godly relationship we strive for.
     Pursue God first.  Get your heart right with Jesus first.  He won't break your heart or leave you feeling unloved.  Make a strong relationship with Him your #goals.  Cute pictures aren't goals.  Getting gifts from your significant other isn't goals.  Taylor and I are not goals.  Jesus is goals.  Make Him your first priority.  Make your relationship goals one with Him, because He won't let you down.